What is a Crunchy Mama?
Urban Dictionary says this: Mother who supports homebirth, breastfeeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering, co-sleeping, gentle discipline, etc. One who questions established medical authority; tends to be vegetarian and/or prepare all-organic foods. See crunchy and hippie.
Hmmm, I can relate to a few of those, but CERTAINLY not even close to all of them. So, how about the definition of just "crunchy"?
Urban Dictionary says this: Adjective. Used to describe persons who have adjusted or altered their lifestyle for environmental reasons. Crunchy persons tend to be politically strongly left-leaning and may be additionally but not exclusively categorized as vegetarians, vegans, eco-tarians, conservationists, environmentalists, neo-hippies, tree huggers, nature enthusiasts, etc.
Hmmm...this is troubling. Based on these definitions I could maybe consider myself half "crunchy". I'm pretty conservative, I am certainly not anything closely related to vegan, my kids wore Huggies diapers, and were both birthed via C-section.
I make healthy, organic beauty products for you, yes. I find it very important to be mindful of our "chemical count" if you will. To eliminate what we can in our lives since we know that we are exposed to countless chemicals in our world today. The products I make are my attempt at providing myself, my family, and my customers with healthy, effective alternatives to commercial, chemically laden products. I love doing it!
With that said, I am MY own version of crunchy, as are you. We all have a little in us and some have a lot. Whenever I post something on my business Facebook page that isn't considered "crunchy", I am always surprised at the reactions. You would have thought I posted that I just burned a pile of tires in the middle of a forest, while pouring oil in a stream, and consuming large amount of fried foods at the same time. I understand I am under a microscope more than the average person, since everyone assumes that since I make organic products, I must be perfectly "crunchy" in EVERY single aspect of my life. No. I'm not. Do I try my best based on my abilities, income, access, and personal beliefs? Sometimes. I can try my heart out, but that doesn't mean I always meet the standards that I would like to. I may have to buy the crappy milk sometimes and allow my kids to eat rice crispy squares and Captain Crunch cereal. And ya know what? It's okay!!
There is so much judgement, comparison, and criticism out there, especially among Mom's. This life is not a competition if we don't allow it to be. Let yourselves find your own definition of crunchy and be okay with that. Not all of us have to purchase our food from the organic stand on the side of the road or grow it in our own garden and process it diligently every year. Some of us eat Kale chips, while others enjoy a good ole bag of Doritos. Some choose cute sandals over Birkenstocks. Some aren't the outdoors type, while others can't get enough of it. How boring would life be if we were all the same?
Instead of comparing ourselves to "Perfectly Crunchy Sue", let's just allow ourselves the ability to define our own crunchy that works for us. Join me in not trying so hard! We have but one of these lives to live, let's do it OUR way! Let's do our best to live healthy, fulfilled lives, but never feeling inadequate or comparing ourselves to others!
Alright, it's a deal. Virtual handshake.